Writing for the grownup ones

Warm greetings,

Welcome to the Home of Truly Inspired. Thank you for spending your treasured time visiting this lovely place.

How is your day going? Is everything still good?

If you have had a wonderful day today, I wish that your wonderfulness will always be maintained and fulfilled.

If things are not sailing so smoothly today, let’s take a moment to rest your bones, sit down and do some deep breathing together. And for now, allow me to tell you a short, sweet story.

I have got a chance to get to know one of my friends’ parents, and despite already being at the age of 65, they still constantly show affection towards one another through actions like holding hands, hugging, kissing, and caring for each other like a newlywed couple. They even have movie night dates and do nearly everything together, and I think that is such an adorable thing!

I remember once, thanks to my overwhelming adoration and admiration for the couple’s happiness, I took all my confidence to ask my friend about how their parents could successfully maintain such a connection between the two of them.

They told me the story about how back in the days, their dad was actually a flirty heartbreaker and he habitually, and eventually, broke their mom’s heart multiple times. Until one day, their dad faced a horrible terminal disease that had him hospitalised, and their mom was the only one who was available to take care of him with all her love and caring. She even had to sneak out of the hospital room to cry when she heard about her husband’s not-so-positive health report from the doctors, just because she did not want to make him worry more.

And eventually, after days being taken care of by their affectionate and caring mom, the dad had gotten so much better and his health started to improve more positively again. And ever since then, they said that their dad has become a different person who shows great regret for the things he has done to their mom that caused her so much dread and heartbreaks. He began to show more love for his wife and to put more effort into nurturing the relationship, making sure that she would always stay happy and healthy, and the result is what we have seen in the story I told you at the beginning.

They told me that the unconditional love from their mom to their dad is what helps her survive and go through the painful moments in the past, and is what now encourages her to always be by their dad’s side to take care and accompany him at any time in life. This is something that not many people can learn to accept, which is to let go of the hatred for the people who once hurt you deeply and to move on from your darkest moments. And not so surprised to know that their dad has learnt the lesson on how to love and cherish his wife even more in the future.

At this point, it is totally okay for you to disagree with the opinion and viewpoints of the mom.

But would it be a bit too hasty to arrive at an abstract conclusion right now?

If you think that the woman in this first story has been victimised and mistreated unfairly by the discriminatory prejudices of the past society, let me now introduce you to a different story.

I also got to know a different couple who were around 70 years of age. They seemed to have lived a peaceful, harmonious life together, hence it would be difficult for an outsider to realise that the bond between them had already faded away since very long ago, and their relationship lacked the intimacy and caring that the couple in the previous story had.

And surprisingly enough, the husband always seeked opportunities to “sneak away” from having to spend time with his wife in a house with only two people, and he did this by bringing up countless reasons and through countless ways. Even though they still lived together, they could no longer feel the connected string they used to have when they were young.

What are your key takeaways from the two stories I have just told you?

Perhaps these two stories of the grownup lives took place in completely different times and spaces, which explains the difference in how their relationships became when they got older. However, they both share the similarity that how their relationships were when they became old were the results of how much of themselves they chose to dedicate to their relationships when they were young.

You may be wondering, what if we don’t have enough resources to invest in and dedicate to our relationships? Then, allow Truly Inspired to help you figure out the best “materials” you can utilise as a great source of investment for your marriage relationship.

Investing more in your relationship when you are still young is to make sure that later in life, you will still have enough love to live happily, and enough sympathy to forgive generously and commit to one another peacefully until the end of life. You will soon learn how to love more, how to share more, and how to recognise your other half as a “life-long friend” of yours.

And the most important thing is that by putting more effort into growing your relationship, you are also establishing a loving connection between you and your children.

Investment in love means a lot more than just building a future bond for your next generation. The ways you and your spouse show love towards one another really influence how your children would view the world, and when they get older, they will then have their lessons prepared on how to find and cherish the person they want to commit their whole life to. With experiences gained from observing the attitudes and behaviour of the grownups, the children would feel an eagerness to find someone who can love them the way their dad loves their mom, or someone who can keep their home warm and welcoming the way their mom brings warmth and happiness to their dad.

Knowing that you should put more effort into building a healthy relationship is a great way to educate and inspire your child in life, so that even if they are to face setbacks and challenges, they would still know how to overcome them the way their parents have overcome their challenges.

Two stories, two scenarios, and two different ways the people in those stories tackled their issues. We can conclude that how their relationships have evolved is the answer to how much they have invested in building their relationships in the past.

As a result, as long as we know how to cultivate our emotional foundation and love for our partner from the beginning of the journey, we can be sure that we will have enough connection between the two in the future to grow old together.

My dear friend,

I understand that after dedicating many decades of our youth to devote ourselves and create a better meaning for life, old age seems to be more lonely and worrisome when we approach our later years in life.

I understand that the older you get, the more you long for reuniting and getting closer to your children; but sometimes it does feel like your existence can be troublesome for them too!

I understand that there are really, really important people in your life that once were your whole world, but now are long gone into the embrace of God, leaving you behind with so much bitterness, agony, and loneliness!

I understand that the unstoppable modern advancement of technology, humanity and our society has caused you to feel so old-fashioned and out-dated and to struggle to learn how to cope with it.

I understand that your feet are gradually getting slower and slower, and your health is becoming weaker and weaker. Diseases and illnesses can seek you and knock you down at any time of the day, from dusk until dawn.

I understand that the time you have gone through has never been easy, even if your past self was highly praised just like a hero by the people who admired and loved you.

But my friend, no matter who we are, we all have to live and comply with the indisputable law of this Universe and abide by the circulation of time.

The older we get, the more we have been through, the more we have to say goodbye to in our life. It could even be our past self, or the things we once ached to love and protect – something on the line of saying the last farewell to the most important people of ours. 

Nevertheless, there are still other ways for us to seek happiness and harmony in life, to send away the worries and sorrow inside us in the most serene and gentle way.

Have you ever heard of the saying “An old man passing away is like a library being burnt down?” Just a very simple quote, yet it carries within it so many wise and deep messages. When reading this, it just makes me feel more grateful to have you all in my life – the grown ups, the elders, the “living library” filled with countless life wisdom. Or in other words, I even feel as if you all are the reflections of my future self ahead in time!

So right now, if you are feeling like you need external support with any mental or psychological issues that you are facing, or if you are looking for someone who can be by your side to help you “dump” your huge emotional baggage, or if you are just simply searching for healings for your inner pain and wounds, I am always here for your need!

We have enough power to turn those unfinished emotional issues and pain into valuable life lessons, priceless experiences and also “heritages” for our future generation. Let Truly Inspired take care of you on your journey rediscovering and recreating your own “heritages”!

With so much love,

Truly Inspired