TOXICITY – TRANSFORMATION OR ABANDONMENT

Are you a person with a lot of toxic thoughts that you did not realise yourself? Or are you living in such an environment? And what would be your solutions if you were stuck in those situations?

Perhaps you may be right now wondering about why I suddenly asked such a strange question. My reason is that recently, I have read and received many shares from young people, colleagues, even small friends that I know. Almost everyone is more or less psychologically affected by the harmful effects of the surrounding environment.

At this time, people’s psyche can almost easily fall into a state of sadness, tending to not be able to manage their emotions when angry, scared, happy or lonely in front of a person. or more problems in life.   

I also know a few unfortunate things that happen to most people all the time, such as:

• For some people, the house is not a place to return to because behind that seemingly peaceful door, there is no one waiting for them. Or maybe when they open the door, they feel suffocated and uncomfortable because the members live together.

Because they understand that waiting for them is not a bright smile, joy or a cosy meal, but there are only quarrels, frowns, and tears. There are even unreasonable impositions or principles.

• There are some people, for them, every day waking up and going to the office is like a nightmare that they never want to enter. Because upon arrival, instead of a peaceful working space, full of positive energy and urging each other to progress as they always expected. It’s just full of jealousy, pressures, orders, even cursing words. But for a living, for many reasons, they still try to stay in that working environment.
• There are some people, who never dare to go to class dates or have a hard time fitting in with a crowd, even though they really want to. What stops them is the barrier of financial inferiority or appearance.

In addition, it may also be due to their inherent personality. There have been a few situations where when they appeared in a certain crowd, they were looked down on or felt so faint that no one called their names correctly.

• There are some people, when any unexpected problem occurs or facing some bad outcome, they tend to blame, blame and vent their anger on those around them.

Just like that, with each passing day, each of us in turn changes into different layers of masks, to suit each situation and each person we come into contact with.

As in a family with a toxic member, people often choose the mask of tolerance or stubbornness. In the classroom, when there are friends who like to make fun of others’ weaknesses, we will again put on the mask of trying to pretend we are okay. When we meet old classmates again, we wear a smiling mask to limit our collisions with people around us because we think this is a way to avoid falling into negativity.

But, the mask is only a temporary solution, no one can wear it for 24 hours and every day like that. We need to breathe, we need to step outside of ourselves to be in direct contact with the other good things in life. Therefore, we need to clearly define what is a safe zone to enter and which is less safe so that we are not affected by changes coming from the outside. 

My dear friend,

Have you ever forgotten your inner child because of the toxicity from your outer environment?

You do not hear wrong, this is exactly what I want to share to help you not be affected by the harmful external environment. I once read a quote on Pinterest.com (USA) with the idea: “The people around you should be the ones to help you relieve stress, not the people who add on more to it.” So, when the outside world makes you feel hurt or you don’t belong there, go back to your inner self.

Learn to be honest with yourself: Wearing a mask every day to face other people is what will make you tired. When we are alone, let’s take them off and practice facing our inner self.

If, today, you feel that you are not good enough, you can admit it to yourself. If you feel like you have just done selfish things to others to satisfy your feelings, gently acknowledge and correct them.

Accepting those little flaws is not so that you criticise yourself, but so that you can be more comfortable not trying to deny it. When you admit it to yourself, you can think better and act differently.

Maybe these things do not help reduce the toxicity from the surrounding environment at all. But, it will help you to create a “protective layer”, shielding, filtering, helping you to detoxify your mind and undiluted into the world you live in every day. This is how to set boundaries. world to protect themselves effectively, I believe you can follow.

Currently, when you still can’t talk to yourself, have not faced your inner corners, you can find a reliable person to talk to. When you have a companion, it will be easier for you to unblock the emotions that are blocked inside and still be in tune with the positive air outside.

If you are really caught up in a spiral of toxic relationships, toxic environments and still do not have enough courage to move on, just know that you do not have to go through all of them on your own! Leave your information below and allow Truly Inspired to share the burdens on your shoulders and overcome the challenges with you.

My dear reader, does “Toxicity – transformation or abandonment?” rely strongly on your decision-making today?

Much love,

Truly Inspired