THE GOSSIP CAN BE LOUD, BUT NOT US!

• “If not being an artist, would an ordinary person often encounter gossip and drama?”
• “Haha, of course. Do not forget an artist is also a person and everyone will play the role of an artist in their lives. Everyone has a “performance” in each of their lives. So, why can there not be gossip? The only difference is the scale of how wide the drama can be spread!”

Sometimes, a little girl in my team raises such silly questions that make us burst into laughter, causing us to joke around and call her a “fool”. A girl who is almost 30 years old, yet sometimes has the soul of an 18. Maybe that is why I have such opportunities to return to my twenties and always feel a natural source of positive energy hiding within my Truly Inspired team, even though every member would always have problems in their lives. 🙂

To be honest, her question was just the opening of a story she was about to tell us, right after we just finished a nearly three-hour meeting. We often take some time to chat a little bit together after such stressful meetings. Recently, a friend of hers, for the first time in her life, got caught up in unworthy scandals which are related to work ever since she became a “micro KOL” (a small-scale influential person, with about 10,000 to 100,000 followers on a social media platform).

After listening to her story, I suddenly thought, up to now, stories by “word of mouth” are something scary if they come from people with bad intentions. Those tales never lost in the telling are always being transmitted in our society so quickly, from one person’s mouth to another’s mouth, not to mention situations where people misheard, misinterpreted, etc. However, in this era of rapid development of social networks, “word of mouth” has turned to “hand-to-hand”, a story starting from anywhere far away can suddenly appear on your news feed as a pre-arrangement just because you used to share a post.

Therefore, what is 4.0 gossip for an ordinary person? Moreover, how can it affect us?

In the simplest term, gossip is the stories other people spread around about you without your presence at that moment. Moreover, it can also be understood as “rumors” coming from the public, the surrounding people about you, or something that you did. Come along with the gossip can always be things that are right or wrong. It is in fact because of the vague boundary between right and wrong, once they are spread to the outside, it is very hard for others to believe you if you in their perspectives are “wrong”.

There is gossip that is accidentally created through listeners with intentions, or also sometimes deliberately created. I have been entangled in unworthy drama, where there are always people who would make up untrue stories about me and then spread that information to people I know. With my past experiences, when I heard my colleague’s story, I wanted to share my life lesson with everyone. If you or anyone read this article, please enjoy this with me!

The gossip can be loud, but not us!

Did you notice? The way that gossip and drama reach you would always be accompanied by commotion, chaos, and confusion. They will appear on any random day without warning, bringing heavy rains or thunderous storms along to you. Gossip will knock on your door not only in one day but will wander around you for many days after. It will not be until they have mentally, and psychologically overwhelmed you and affected your life along with relationships, that they are “delighted” to see you suffering or heartbroken. Furthermore, you know, you are not the only one who is annoyed by them, your loved ones and friends can also be caught in this vortex of your drama!

That is the nature and the way that gossip would always work. Initially, they may come to us in the form of a tiny bean. However, then, in just a short time, drama can grow very quickly and become as big as your fist!

So, what should we do to end this matrix of gossip?

Unfortunately, I have to tell you, it is impossible to get rid of drama in this society. That is because how can we live a life that could always please all those around us? How can we stop someone from hating us or making up stories about us, right?

Nonetheless, there is a way that we can overcome and “crush” the gossip, stop them from growing big until the point it can overshadow the real us. That is to: truly focus on yourself. When the drama appears, the first thing you would want to do is check to see if the cause of this mess truly came from yourself or how many percentages that you were right, or wrong in the story. In case you were wrong, calmly admit the mistake and just find a solution to fix it.

Moreover, if you are not wrong, but other people intentionally spread lies about you, at times like this, silence and concentrating on letting your self-values speak for you is the most necessary thing!

The gossip can be loud, but not us! Remember this.

As I used to say in the article “Impersonation and its values”, when someone impersonates us, they can imitate many things which possibly can cause harm to us. Nonetheless, the truth is that our selves-values, knowledge, and manners could never be copied!

So, my friend, gossip intentionally brought by others will always return to them if you truly focus on improving your good qualities and making yourself valuable.

You see, loudness can make someone tired, yet the silence in life makes others afraid much more.

Between someone who constantly argues with you and someone who uses their silence to reciprocate you, who would you feel easier talking with?

Between the lapping waves and the subterranean stillness of the ocean, which do you think will be able to “manipulate” your attention more?

A person stays silent to focus on dealing with their inner problems, while the ocean stays silent to nourish the creatures that develop within it. Everyone would always focus on their work and values. It is their “silence” that will show appropriate replies to the drama out there.

Therefore, you should stay silent and calm. Once you are busy and focused on improving your life and building your values, no one will care about the gossip about you anymore, because they understand that was not you. It is what you are doing at the moment that is the real you!

The reason why gossip would be easily blown up is because we pay attention to them. When these rumors, and stories are ignored, they will disappear in silence. It is just easy like that!

Your concentration will help you gain wisdom for you to “escape from the deep water”, and quickly pass by the problem. If you do not believe that, just look at me!

I am a small girl who still stays strong, and peaceful among the noise of life and has continued to walk on the path of inspiring people while becoming a professional coach! Do you think that I am currently not being gossiped about or troubled in life? That is impossible! 🙂 They are still in my life, but the main important thing is that I know how to face them and stabilize my mentality. I always believe in the values which I created for myself, as well as believe that people around me will always know who I am and what my personality is!

To sum up everything,

It is when and just only when you truly believe in your bright future, that you would have enough strength, wisdom, and bravery to overcome current difficulties or drama. If you find it hard as you can easily be overwhelmed by the gossip, you can always come to me at any time. The house of Truly Inspired will always welcome you, be with you and overcome obstacles in life with you, buddy!

Much love,
Truly Inspired