Pressure – Responsibility and how to transform your energy

A few months ago, I heard a very interesting and meaningful story from a member of my Truly Inspired team. You will not understand how important and interesting this person means to me. Ever since we met and worked together, she has always brought me surprises followed by surprises, just because of “some questions” that I could never have thought of without the help of her interesting questions.

The thing is, during that time, she was in a desperate phase where personal-love-life-related troubles kept coming for her. I also see her stressed out about another matter, making her become more anxious and longing to solve the issues even more than any other problem. After a long time hanging out and chatting together, she finally started to share that her family, who were living in her hometown at that time, was having a big debt of around 200 million VND, and since she is the eldest child, she ought to be entrusted with paying that debt as soon as possible for her parents.

She was worried, insecure, and did not know how to pay off all that debt in such a short amount of time when her current monthly earnings could only serve for her daily expenses living in such a big city. She also really wanted to help her parents take care of her siblings by financially providing for them, who are at the age where they should be studying and developing normally instead of having to worry about their family incomes.

Therefore, a tangled mess kept popping up in her mind, causing her to be suppressed by such big responsibilities. She wanted to quickly find a way to work and earn more money. However, “Haste makes Wastes”, everything needs to go through a proper process, and every result will only come if we put in enough time and effort into it. As soon as I saw the pressure, stress, and impatience in her, I was honestly feeling a strong sense of relief.

Don’t be surprised yet!

I said that I felt relieved not because I thought it was just a small amount of money, but because I finally knew the key reason why she has been so stressed in these past few days. Plus, I then saw another positive side of the problem that she was facing.

My dear friend,

“Responsibility” is a kind of consciousness that can easily create pressure, but the amount of time “it” stays depends on how we “identify” and “detoxify” that pressure and responsibility. I hope that as soon as you or anyone else starts to feel stressed about the responsibilities which you all have to carry, the first thing you will do is to stop just thinking about it all the time. Instead, have you tried identifying what is causing you to become so anxious, tired, and under so much pressure like that?

When you are calm enough and feel ready to consider the problem deeply, you will be able to find the root cause of the tangled situation, as well as find out the “invisible pressure” that is pressuring on you.

For example, in the case of the 200 million debt above, I asked her why she should carry such pressure and responsibility on her shoulders. Is it because of her love and care for her parents and siblings? If it truly comes from her heart or her appreciation for her family, then she should be happy about it since it is the unlimited affection inside her that resulted in that responsibility, not the enormous debt that brought pressure and anguish to her, right?

My dear friend,

When we have understood that if we view responsibility as Mindfulness that comes from love, values, or your position when considering related events, then everything will turn into Motivation. In summary, Motivation comes from Love. So let’s convert Pressure into Motivation with passion, and you will soon be able to avoid Pressure and understand the Responsibilities you are having.

In this story, do you realise that there is not only love but also gratitude within this girl’s actions? Because without her being truly grateful for her parents, she would not have dared to carry the responsibility of paying her parents’ debt. It is the parents who got the loan, not her. She could have chosen to not worry about or not interfere with that debt. However, she still chose to try her best to pay that debt as soon as she could so that she can give her parents some peace of mind.

This is a stage of emotion and a sense of responsibility that, in my opinion, not many teenagers or young people can have in mind. Due to the modern life that we are living in, many people are too busy pursuing the recent “trendy” lifestyle to the point they forget that it is also essential to love and take care of their family, of those around them, or of those who have helped them through hard times. In short, people somehow forget what “Gratitude” is.

Just with a different and more positive perspective, my colleague has transformed her energy in a very powerful way. She clearly understood the meaning of her Responsibility and where the Pressure comes from. Even though there are times when she told me that she was too tired and “underslept” when it was already very late at night, at 8 AM the next morning she still managed to dress up, get fully prepared to start a new day in the best mood she got. As days went by, I still saw how more hard-working she has become, and how she tried her best to live with more possible goals and to try even harder. 

Pressure and Responsibility are just different perspectives and points of view of each person. However, if you can, please always try to view things more positively and enjoyably because life will always be fair with us. Therefore, our job is to use those “bad” incidents that life has given us to make more excellent moves, that’s all you need to do!

Much love,
Truly Inspired