MISTREATMENT IN THE NAME OF LOVE

In the past few days, a sad incident has taken place and slightly made our hearts sink.

Long story short, the fanpage of Truly Inspired has just been published recently, and we have just posted a few articles to introduce our mission and services to the online audience. Although we are still new and the reach of the articles on our fanpage is not that high, we are very happy to see how there are already some people showing their interests in my articles as well as my services. However, one day ago, I suddenly received a comment on one of the articles saying that everything on this page looks just like a scam!

Before deciding to “give birth” to Truly Inspired and acknowledging that my appearance would be more frequent around social networks, I had already anticipated myself encountering negative comments or opposing views for what I publish on this page. However, after only a few days of posting my articles, there have been plenty of strangers who commented or even sent us messages with negative opinions and criticisms. My biggest purpose of becoming a Life Coach is to help many people to have a better life and become the best versions of themselves. And in that sense, I also understand that I should not care too much about those unconstructive criticisms from those people, but their behaviour truly affects my Truly Inspired team and the emotions of my readers and customers, hence making me feel very discouraged and doubtful.

You see it, right? 

It was just only a stranger but their words have made us so depressed, then if that exact same statement came from your loved and trusted ones, how much more pain and hurt would it be?

And ironically, in our daily life, we can still often see how there are many people who use the name of love and compassion to “abuse” and hurt the emotions and feelings of the people around them.

The above situation is actually just a very small and maybe trivial thing compared to what I and many people out there have experienced ourselves. However, it is a pity that such negative behaviour can be repeated so many times that some people get too used to it and start ignoring it, or some start to have shame, sadness, disappointment and loss of confidence in their self-worth just because of those bad comments.

It amazes me how the people who are the most critical are the closest ones to us, especially our parents and siblings. No matter how hard you try to achieve something, they will always manage to find the flaws within every attempt and effort of yours. Even if on that day, you have done everything super well and to the best you could, they would never give a word of praise; but if you were just a little careless even if you did not make any single mistake, you would be immediately scolded, blamed and criticised. I still cannot believe how there are still people who live with the motto of “the more criticisms you have, the better you become,” or “people should be brought down so that they can know their own limits.”

Bringing someone down is not the only way (and perhaps should not be the way) to encourage them to drive further and live a better life, am I right? We can always choose our own words and decide how we can make this world a better place and help people’s lives become more positive.

You know, it is not just physics that when we release a piece of paper into the air, it will fly when blown by the wind, yet when we drop a pebble, no matter how big or small it is or if there is any wind, the pebble will immediately fall to the ground. Because the paper is light, while the pebble is heavy, and what is light easily flies up, while what is heavy surely falls.

And the same concept can also be applied to us humans. Pleasant, gentle words always make others feel calmer and more peaceful, while heavy, rude and gruff words will often make everything stagnant and frustrating. Our words, when positively emitted, always contain a source of boundless energy and power that is able to make a sad and hurt person become happier. And vice versa, words of criticism, threats and pessimism can cause a person in a normal state to become heartbroken and resentful, and they can even lead to certain feelings of depression, hurt and loss. There is a very well-known Vietnamese proverb that I think everyone would agree with, “Words cost zero cent to be said, then choose your own wisely and carefully.”

When nice and pleasant words are said, your life will somehow become nicer and more pleasant just like your words. You will always meet friendly people who love you endearingly, and wherever you go, there will be people who are more than happy to support and help you when needed. However, if you are a rude and grumpy person, then you will be annoyed by every single thing wherever you go, and your end result will always be isolation and disgust from all people. from the strangers on the street to your acquaintances. Of course, the more you are exposed to negative energy fields and words, the more unapproachable you would become.

It would be nice if you find someone who, whenever you are around that person, you are always the most “perfect”, most beautiful and kindest version of yourself, and that person is the one who realises your deepest values even before you realise it yourself. If you do, then congratulations, you are one of the luckiest and happiest people; but if you have not found one yet, how about becoming THAT person for yourself?

In conclusion, no one can become better if they are “mistreated” with ugly words and actions every day, especially when those things come from the people they love the most. If you do not want to be hurt by other people’s bad words, first of all, you should know how to control yourself and how to use your words wisely and positively, okay?

Much love,
Truly Inspired®