IF THE FINAL STRAW BREAKS THE CAMEL’S BACK, THEN LET IT BREAK!

When a person suddenly sheds tears, do you know what the words that are the most painful, the most depressing for them to hear are?

“It is nothing worth crying about. What is the point of overreacting anyway?”

That is it. That exact sentence.
Why do I assert that? For you, there may be many other hurtful words, but for me, those words above are the ones that can cause the most damage, as well as make the cut inside that person, once again, go deeper.

This is not a statistical study at all but what I have witnessed, observed, and heard from many situations where people “would want to cry but are being stopped from crying” around me.

Ever since I was a kid, I have often heard that when a child tripped and got hurt, many adults would say “What is there to cry about? If you fall, just get up” or something like “God, it is okay to just fall. Stop making such a fuss.” and so on.

In fact, for adults, tripping over or a slightly painful fall will just leave scratches on the skin. Nonetheless, for a child, it is not so simple. The scratch may be small, but the mental damage is not small at all, because children always need to be protected, cared for, and loved. When children fall, of course, adults do not have to rush to comfort them while blaming the table, the chair, or even the ground for the fall, but the last thing they could do is give kids a light hug so they know they are safe and protected and that the fall was because they were being a little careless, that next time they would have to walk more carefully.

Usually, when children fall and cry, it would be caused by rather pain or the feeling of being panicked because they do not feel safe anymore! However, not many adults think of it that way. Every time they hear the lamentation or see the tears coming out of their children, the adults will always tell them to hold it back. They are children, how can they stand any pain? Crying is their only way of expressing pain or calling for protection and attention from others. That is all!

However, do you know that when sometimes being blocked from crying, children would always have the right to cry, even if they are scolded, they will always find a way to cry. They could even scream so loud that the adults would have to soothe them more!

So what about adults?
When crossing the threshold called “being mature”, it seems that people hold in the feeling of “stopping yourself from crying” more and more.

Being bullied in his childhood, a boy can run home to tell his parents. Or if he has a problem, he will just need to be hugged and caressed by someone then would forget it right away.

Nonetheless, after growing up, who can adults run home to, when that morning they went to work with their bosses’ scoldings and threats of firing them or having their salary decreased even though it was not any of their fault, they just someone who had to accidentally bear it? Who will be the one to bear this frustration with them, who could they possibly cry to?

Or even when you suddenly stumbled into so many bad events, as it never rains but pours, like encountering obstacles on the road, a certain illness in the body rising, you would never dare to call your parents to complain, sometimes for some unlucky people, they would not have parents to complain to…

I truly find grown-ups to be pitiable, because inside those huge bodies, sometimes it is just a child who is not mature, not tough as it seems.

It has been a long time since I have learned not to judge or interfere deeply in anyone’s business because honestly, we never know how bad the events they have been through or experienced behind their smiles.

The same goes for seeing someone cry. If I can not hug, pat or sit next to that person to listen to their confessions, I will never say “Stop, stop, there is nothing to cry about”. Even if a person had fallen in love with a terrible guy who was not worth the time she had to spend out, which youngsters now refer to them in the slang “douchebags”, I just wanted to let that person cry it all out. When tears are shed, it means that they will learn something in their life, even if it is just a small thing. Moreover, because tears are also a very precious part of each person when they roll down, a price has somewhat been paid!

I always believe that a person, no matter how strong and tough they are, will eventually need to cry. I believe that there are many people, who do not just cry at anything, anytime, but in their souls, their past, and their hearts have had to endure many painful things that caused them to be scared, mentally damaged, tired, and even helpless. There may have been hundreds of burdens being descended on them that we would never understand. They could not solve them all, so crying is the first or last release for them to overcome these problems way more gently.

If the final straw breaks the camel’s back, then let it break!

Even if crying, sometimes, is just a person being lovesick, a person being betrayed, a job loss, or many bigger things such as fatal diseases, bereavement, or even bankruptcy, etc.

Everyone has different levels of tolerance. Therefore the thing that makes people cry will always have different levels of intensity or seriousness.

It is okay to cry! The most terrible and painful thing is you CAN NOT CRY ANYMORE, you always try to hold everything back in. This is the most hurtful and self-torturing thing!

For me, sometimes, crying is also a way to heal. Crying is for us to face our true feelings, without needing to cover it up. If you can not cry, it will be difficult to heal. If you do not feel your emotions fall to pieces, you will not know how to bond and nurture a positive state of mind for the upcoming journey of life.

So, my friend, whenever you want to cry, just cry, even if you would have to cry so loud. Feel free to feel miserable, do not hide it from yourself. Then you will be fine and will “become conscious”!

Much love,
Truly Inspired