DEPARTURE OF FATE – PAINFUL YET WORTHWHILE!

Yesterday, due to an unexpected shift in my work schedule, I found myself with a leisurely afternoon, ample time to call a dear friend with whom I had not spoken in quite a while. It was a simple spur-of-the-moment recollection of her that prompted me to inquire about her well-being, and coincidentally, she happened to be as “spontaneously free” as I was. Thus, throughout the entire afternoon, we shared many thoughts and revisited a tale from years past, a narrative that had led me to offer solace and support for her healing for an extended period.

I cannot quite fathom why this story evokes such strong emotions, even dating back several years. The narrative was once again articulated through its rightful owner – my cherished friend. She is not merely an ordinary confidante but also a kindred spirit of mine. Our bond extends beyond shared frequencies and energies; what I particularly admire about her is her humility, despite being a genuinely talented individual with a privileged background. My friend is also a remarkably kind person.

The story I am about to share is also one of those love stories that originated from kindness. Unfortunately, this love story ended with all the love, kindness, and morality that my friend poured into the blossoming love in her heart a few years ago.

The reason I titled the article “Departure of Fate” is not because this phrase implies “insufficient love leading to a breakup;” on the contrary, it is because it is a love so immense that the older sister had to escape from that love just so her beloved would not be burdened with “guilt.” Perhaps, this is one of the few stories of the “third party” tinted with kindness that I have decided to share with everyone. I know there will be conflicting thoughts when reading this article. However, I choose to share it because I believe in the values of kindness that a “third party” can bring to themselves and the one they love.

I named that old story “Destined Love” – as a love that was destined to happen from some distant past life. For a long time, I have been researching the deep layers of human life, and at the same time, I have been practising meditation for over 10 years, so I strongly believe in what is called “predestined relationships.” For me, anyone we meet in our present life is a predestined relationship that has a connection with us from some past life, both karmic and affinitive.

The love story of my friend began its “predestined connection” when she attended a workshop with another friend in the same field. However, when she arrived, the auditorium was almost full yet she still had some business to attend to, so she had to stand outside the door to handle it and enter later. As a result, her friend who came with her could only secure an empty seat in the upper row but not in the same row.

When she was about to take the seat reserved for her, the man next to her friend proactively stood up to offer his seat. Given their acquaintance, he graciously yielded his place so the other two could sit together. Interestingly, the moment he rose to relinquish his seat became a brief encounter of gazes between my friend and the gentleman. Swiftly, she returned to her seat, still warmed by the residual heat from the recently vacated spot. Though seemingly mundane, this incident left an indescribable “difference” in her heart. Reflecting back on the encounter, she told me, “My initial impression of him was, ‘Oh God, something is so off,’ Na! It’s so strange!”

“What do you mean by ‘feeling off’?” I inquired; although having sensed a bit about her emotions, I wanted her to express it for a more in-depth discussion.

“The warmth of that seat and his gaze made me feel quite ‘strange,'” she replied.

However, being a composed and rational person who understood the purpose of attending the workshop, my friend did not entirely immerse herself in that fleeting emotion, and in fact, she could not even recall the name of the man after that encounter.

I have advised many people in situations like this regarding emotions, relationships, and predestined connections. So, for my friend, it was also the same; she could not escape the “indescribable longing” with this person, and even though they have only met for the second time, it feels like they have known each other for lifetimes.

Initially, they thought they would only meet at that crowded seminar; however, my friend was surprised to find out that they would have an opportunity to collaborate in another program. She even mentioned that before stepping into the unexpected second encounter, she had the list of all the meeting participants in her hand, including the name of the man. However, she was unaware of this fact until she entered the meeting room, where their eyes unexpectedly met, and both seemed to freeze for a few seconds. Despite my friend’s calm and professional appearance, she could not hide the turmoil of emotions and the butterflies inside her stomach.

From that moment when their eyes met, her emotions grew larger and more apparent, turning into something she could not deny. Despite trying various methods to compose herself and stabilise her emotions, during that entire meeting, her internal feelings remained restless and indescribable.

As someone who has also practised mindfulness for many years, my friend gradually realised that his presence is one of the “life exams” the Universe has sent to her, but in a way she never anticipated.

And you know, after that second meeting, they continued to delve deeper into collaboration in their work. From then on, numerous intricate shifts unfolded in the relationship between these two strangers yet strangely familiar individuals. As of yesterday, when discussing past matters, it became apparent that my friend still harbours a significant sentiment for this man!

Throughout their collaboration, both had more opportunities for interaction and connection, intensifying and deepening the emotions within each of them. In this article, I wish to focus solely on the emotional journey of my friend and will not delve much into the emotional trajectory of the gentleman, my dear friend!

If you also believe in fate and destiny, I am sure you will understand that when someone is destined to be part of your life, both, in some way, will always be drawn to each other. To metaphorically describe the emotional trajectory of my friend, it was like a swirling tornado, powerful and encompassing around her heart. The emotions were tumultuous and discomforting, as if there was a constant stretching and recoiling, making her feel overwhelmed and breathless, yet she could not make everything disappear.

During those times, she shared a lot about these feelings, to the extent that I felt like I was experiencing them myself too. Despite the emotional storm, she always strived to fulfil her duties gracefully. In the course of their work, both also experienced an emotional development beyond the typical bond between partners or colleagues. The emotional connection between them deepened, causing a certain restlessness, even though both had already settled down.

According to what my friend has shared, that man was very kind and amiable, notably prudent. The mutual care they shared was profoundly warm, yet both strived to keep everything within the realm of personal emotions, avoiding the crossing of any further boundaries.

However, as you may know, the more one tries to restrain, the more intense it becomes. Alas, emotions are the most challenging to control! They began sharing more life stories and aspects beyond their professional lives. They delved into each other’s personal narratives. The emotional connection was further intensified, for knowing too much sometimes adds to the pain.

Also being someone with a particular research in the field of depths of human life, my friend, upon encountering this extremely “peculiar” connection, embarked on an immediate exploration into the profound layers of that man’s life. She uncovered numerous facets of his life, including messages embedded in the map of his life, specifically, signals that urged him to “refrain from emotional entanglements!” In his journey, there would be stages where he would make wrong choices, choose the wrong path and wrong people, leading to considerable losses, emotional wounds, and lessons that would bring fatigue and complications to him. The unequivocal message was: He must absolutely avoid entering into any new relationships until concluding the existing “old” connection (which was his current marriage).

Adding a bit more about my friend, she is someone whom I believe not that many men would want to “decline” if they encountered her. Not only is she proficient and intelligent in her work, but she also possesses a keen understanding, a radiant appearance, and a serene aura that is inherently attractive. However, after thoroughly examining the profound layers of that man’s life, my friend calmly sat down to organise small plans, offering suitable guidance for him at specific points in his life. And then, after completing the task, which was also when they both finished with the collaboration, she chose to disappear quietly.

She told me that perhaps in some other lifetime, she had made promises or engagements with that man, hence, despite being rational, she harboured a lot of emotions for him. Therefore, she decided to leave behind what was necessary for him and planned to depart after concluding the project, cutting off all contact with him. She could only do what she deemed best for him, maybe even as a way to fulfil a long-lost vow in a distant lifetime. She did not want that man to face more difficulties in the remainder of his life because of her.

Later, she told me, There are relationships above friendship yet below romantic love. There are relationships above friendship, and even above romantic love or anything else. And that is what destiny is!

My dear friend,
The pain of an understanding adult is entirely different from the pain of a child who falls and cries. It is silent, subtle, profound, and indescribable.

She encountered that man while in the process of divorcing her husband. However, thinking about the other man’s family, she still decisively chose to abandon the unwanted feelings with that man. She preferred to let herself be hurt and injured, to struggle with her own inner turmoil, rather than opting for a path that could lead both to a thousandfold more suffering!

Some kindness is exchanged for a lot of pain.
Because being kind is not easy, many close their eyes and choose to go against their own ethics.

I do not blame or judge those people. I just simply value kindness and understand that “We always have the right to choose!” Therefore, I truly appreciate how my friend handled everything, ensuring that nothing went beyond limits, avoiding any lingering resentment or harm to anyone!

Love and respect are what my friend chose to leave with the man carrying the “predestined fate” to her from some past life that she could not recognise!

Very few people can do that. Because “Departure of fate – painful yet worthwhile.” That “worthwhile” is something not only you will see, but those around you, upon knowing, will always support you, embrace you, and heal you because you deserve much more love!

I hope that everyone unfortunate enough to get entangled in complicated love affairs will have enough insight to end relationships gracefully. At least, you will not hurt anyone else or shatter any families just because of the love and connections born from you, my dear friend!

Much love,
Truly Inspired