EVERYONE WILL CHANGE, EVEN YOU IN THE PRESENT!

“Your ex-best friend has found a new friend group and I still do not know why you still feel sad thinking about how things have changed. Instead, why not look for new relationships, and new friends in the environment where you study or work? It will be so much better for you. Remember, change is normal. Everyone changes, what matters is how they will change.”

I recently saw a short video on social media shared by Miss Grand International 2021. It reminded me of a light coaching session I had with a young client on a similar topic.

This young client of mine is an emotional-guided person, who is very sensitive and introverted. Emotional and relationship matters make her feel stressed, disappointed, and doubtful about herself.

Let me share a summary of her story. This might be a common issue for many young people, especially those still in school.

She had a close friend for almost 10 years – you could even call it a golden friendship over time. Although they did not go to school together, they started working at the same company right after graduation. At that time, they both had little money and not much stability or good relationships. They went through many difficulties, failures, and even first successes in their careers together. Not only that, even in love relationships, they were almost always there for each other for nearly 10 years. When one was heartbroken, the other became a source of comfort, and vice versa.

However, at a certain point, the girl’s best friend suddenly changed jobs, which she believed had more potential and a higher income. Of course, our girl was happy for her friend, as she had witnessed the ups and downs, even the struggles of her friend. Therefore, she genuinely rejoiced when her friend found a more suitable job.

Then, as it happens, since they now had different jobs, they gradually contacted each other less. Their relationship had changed, and they did not have as much in common to talk about anymore. Over time, the close bond between them faded. Especially as her best friend began to accumulate material possessions like a house, and a car, then established new high-quality relationships with people who were all ambitious, wealthy, and materialistic in their conversations, in their attire, etc.

Although my young client believes that if her best friend is successful, she should be happy for them without envy or jealousy, she never thought of being envious of her friend. She believed that, no matter how successful her friends became, they would still occupy an important part of her heart, neither more nor less. Therefore, there was no need for her friend to stop communicating or reduce their closeness. She was deeply hurt because when it was her birthday, her best friend did not remember or offer any congratulations. Coincidentally, it was also the birthday of one of her best friend’s new acquaintances. Therefore, instead, her friend chose to go to the party and posted birthday wishes on social media.

Just that small action was enough to hurt the sensitive heart of an introverted person who already only had a few relationships in life. In reality, this story did not end with my client’s birthday as many other situations occurred afterward. However, I will not share them because the main focus is CHANGES.

My dear friend,
When we embark on a new journey in life, like changing schools, grades, homes, jobs, or starting anything new, we always fear losing what was old such as old friends, colleagues, neighbours, or old affections. Nonetheless, you know, you do not have to be afraid because even with fear, everything will still happen as expected. Everything will change and new things will replace old ones. That is an inevitable law. When the old goes, the new can come. Especially in the journey of self-development, you must always be prepared to say goodbye to many things, sometimes unexpectedly.

Take a moment to observe and feel: are you different today when you wake up compared to yesterday? Surely, you are! It could be a change in appearance, health, mentality, or attitude. It will never be the same because, with each passing moment, we will come into contact with different people, environments, movies, social media, etc. All of these things contribute to how we live from the inside out, regardless of how small or large the impacts are, they would still always do. Therefore, we cannot “nail down” that others should never change because we are never “staying the same”!

Just like the story of my client above, you see, no matter how strong a friendship of nearly 10 years is, when there is a change in the environment and external influences, that friendship tends to shift in a different direction. However, our girl’s close friend has embraced the changes in her life to step into a new chapter, a more blossoming, higher-quality life for herself. My client also underwent certain changes in her thoughts, emotions, and perspectives on life, and on the relationship between people, until the moment she met me.

If you are going through something similar today, I want to send you a big hug! You know, to get to where I am today, I also had to say goodbye to many people, many things, and many stages full of affection, to step up and become an inspiration for Truly Inspired as I am now! I paid various prices, accepted everything, experienced both joy and pain, and I continue choosing courageously to stay on this journey of helping others’ lives, to do something I have always dreamed of, even if it is not always easy!

I hope you will always have the calmness to face everything, to learn the words “let go” and “peace” to make life more tranquil.

Remember, every person has their time for development. Over time, we all change in different ways. It could be for the better or it could worsen. However, if possible, always choose to change in the most positive direction. Keep seeking and becoming the best version of yourself. Here is a little secret that perhaps not many people notice: When you are yourself, you will always develop! Remember that!

Much love,
Truly Inspired