RIGHT PERSON – FOR THE RIGHTNESS OF EVERYTHING?

During a recent discussion in my class, our teacher presented a list of ten important things in life and asked the students to prioritise them from 1 to 10, or if not prioritising, to select the three most important items for each individual.
The ten items shared by our teacher included:

1. Money
2. Health
3. Peace
4. Charity – helping others
5. Choosing the “right partner”
6. Sports and fitness
7. A good job
8. House
9. Car
10. Travel

This is one of those tests that I think you might have occasionally heard about or practised somewhere. If you have not ever done it, you can share your own list in the comments section right here in this article!

Do you know what I have chosen? These were my three most important things in life: Choosing the “right partner” – Health – Charity (helping others).

At that time, many of my classmates did not make the same choices as I did; instead, they mostly wanted to prioritise money/material wealth or indulgences like travelling. Why did I prioritise choosing the “right partner” above all else? For me, selecting the right partner is not just about finding the right life partner but also the right colleague, the right companion, etc.

The reason I made this choice is because I deeply understand from my own life experiences that: by choosing the right person, I can also achieve other things like peace – happiness, and together, we both can advance our careers and build a better life!
Because alone, I have already been able to create some material value suitable for my life, so I do not overly prioritise other things in the list among my top three positions.

When the discussion was opened, class members began to split into small groups and sparked lively debates to defend their viewpoints and choices. Of course, here I will not make any judgments or comments about the choices of my friends, because I understand that different individual life experiences create unique decisions for everyone. This is not due to differences in religion, ethnicity, skin colour, or education. It is the sum result of life experiences and the influence of the surrounding environment on each person.

At that time, there were friends whom I would categorise into the “materialistic school of thought,” believing that money is the most important thing in life as without it, it would be difficult to achieve many other things that one wants. Sometimes, to help someone, you also need money.

However, for a long time, I have always thought that things related to material wealth, particularly money, are things that if a person is fortunate to have a lot but does not know how to keep or use it properly, it will gradually diminish or disappear completely when something unexpected happens.

However, choosing the “right person” means that no matter if life is up or down, whether there are highs or lows, or whatever happens, this “asset” will not change – on the contrary, having them in your life may make your life even more joyful and meaningful.

Money is indeed important for a quality life, but it is not my highest priority if I have to make a choice. Money is one of the necessary conditions to make our lives more convenient and ample in many aspects – but this is only material sufficiency. As for spiritual fulfilment, it is uncertain that money can provide it, for even sitting atop a pile of splendid material goods, one still might not feel well, joyful, or free, and thus may not find true peace and happiness.

If we could choose a partner who is not only suitable and loving but also wealthy, that would be wonderful. However, what if that person is not very wealthy? Then, choosing the right person becomes even more important at this juncture.

Life shows us that there are many people who, despite leading ordinary lives, have very happy and peaceful marriages because they chose the right person to marry. Not to mention those who find a spouse who shares the same vision and aspirations for the future with them; such couples can support each other even better in their careers. They can journey together, share, and build their life dreams. Of course, they too will have conflicts and arguments, but you know what? Because they have chosen the right person, things will not escalate too far. Because it is the right person, their love for each other will be more important than being right or being angry. Because it is the right person, they will care more about protecting their mutual love than defending their individual egos in battles with one another! And because it is the right person, they can often sit down to discuss, confide, and understand each other more!

Trust me, these things, whether you have some money or a lot of it, are still not necessarily easy to find, right?

Each of us is born and grows up with at least one dream in life. Be it dreams of happiness, career aspirations, desires for wealth, and so on. I also understand that: The journey to achieving these dreams is never easy for anyone, regardless of age. Therefore, having a spouse who can accompany you in the right way, offering sufficient love, understanding, care, etc. can always help create other important aspects of your life – not just material things, but also a complete and fulfilling life experience! This, I believe, is the ultimate “perfection” that all of us aspire to, is it not?

Choosing the right person involves more than just selecting the right life partner – it also extends to choosing the right business partners, clients, and colleagues as we advance in our careers. Meeting the right people can support us not only in our work but also become close friends with whom we explore life – a truly precious thing not everyone gets to experience. I am sure you too have learned some painful lessons about making the “wrong” choices in partnerships or collaborations, right?

Thus, to me, the most critical and brilliant choice in life is choosing the right person!

Choosing the right person also brings other correct values into our lives. Making the right choice benefits not only ourselves but also those around us. When we are fulfilled and happy, we create a proper living environment that radiates positive energy, fostering a positive environment for those around us, and this can significantly impact their lives as well.

The process of choosing the right person is by no means simple; it may require you to face many challenges, difficulties, and hardships along the way; however, if we continually strive to do so with alertness, sincerity, and expansive love, I believe that eventually, the right person will come along to form the right partnership with you, thus creating other correct values for the people we love!

Choose the right person – for the rightness of everything, my dear friend!

Much love,
Truly Inspired